- Communication
- This above all, is the most important part of any relationship, but even moreso in kink and especially moreso in this kink space. Make sure you understand your submissive's wants, needs, and goals. But also make sure to be their rock to ground them back to earth. Because some submissives will want things that are just unrealistic or unhealthy for them. It's up to you to keep her responsible, and it's up to you as a Dominant to be the most responsible. You're being trusted with a life, after all.
- Vulnerability
- A submissive can be very vulnerable in the Bambi headspace, so ensuring safety and comfort is huge. This goes hand-in-hand with communication. If you're haphazard or unsafe with your submissive, they will put those emotional walls up and likely never let you in again. That vulnerability is a privilege.
- Soft VS Hard Boundaries
- Make sure you and your submissive discuss boundaries, and whether or not the boundaries they have are HARD (cannot be stepped over, ever) or if they're SOFT (they're just unsure of it, but willing to dip their toes). If any of those SOFT boundaries are things you want to explore as a Dominant, make sure you're careful with your submissive as you help them explore it. Remember, they're unsure, right? You gotta make sure they feel safe with you.
- Trigger Usage
- Triggers from Bambi Sleep are meant to get very powerful. Meaning your Bambi/submissive is likely to be very sensitive to them. It's important that you know the when and where with them. Read over the Triggers page and also ask your Bambi for more info since those triggers could be reframed person-to-person. Just throwing triggers out haphazardly isn't hot or kinky. It's confusing and unwanted, and makes you look like a Dom who hasn't taken the time to learn this.
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